Cheating

There are different types of cheating. But the one that I want to talk about today is cheating within relationships. I don't want to go into the psychological reasons for why people cheat, I only want to get some things off my mind. Can a cheater change his/her ways? Can a person truly trust a partner again after he or she has been cheated on? Should that person deserve to earn your trust back. What if kids are involved what do you do then? Is the relationship even worth salvaging? If you have answered no to any of the following questions then you need to leave that person alone. I don't even care how many years you have, or how much potential you see coming out of there, its not even worth it. I have not had my share of relationships only 4 seemed to make a lasting standpoint in my life. 1 being the first guy I ever dated while in high school,the relationship lasted for only two years and ended because I greatly desired to go to college. The 2nd relationship happened 3 years after the first but during my first year of college. That was on and off for about 2 years as well. There were our share of ups and downs and now the relationship has its best fit as a friendship. Now the 3rd relationship only makes a case, simply because it was the only relationship in which the guy threatened to kill me if we broke up, so we broke up and I had the police escort me home for my safety.

Now on to the 4th guy in which I have a child by. Which seems to be the worse case scenario known to man. Well he's been accused once of sleeping with other women. One being an ex, which he slept with while I was 6 months pregnant. Ok so I find this out a year later and he's more upset that I found out about it through his ex girl rather than admit he had done this act, after being asked about it 3 TIMES. Ok, now this is where trust comes into play. Getting lied to this whole time, and a person you think loves you puts your health in danger as well as a unborn child all because you THINK that they are being faithful to you, I can understand how some people act on the Maury show. So how long does it take to regain trust? and is this process even worth it? Honestly I don't think that it is even possible to fully trust someone again after trust has been violated and the violation has been proven to be true. But let's just say you stick it out and hope that things get better.

So after a period of time the violated person forgives and is able to reopen the heart to be able to trust again, just for a little, another trial run before the end-all of solutions. In my particular case I tried but I still kept my alerts up. So no this same person stands accused of sleeping around with coworkers. He swears up and down that its not true, even offers to call the girl he's accused of sleeping with as proof. But who's to know that they just lie for each other? But you find hard proof that they are sleeping with another person, this time they make trophies out of it and even brag about conquests and hopes of future encounters. Now where does that leave YOU? Let's see, heartbroken, victimized, hurt, angry, ashamed, and the list can go on forever. Cheaters are always cheaters. They will never change because of the thrill of something new or different, the thrill of lying, the thrill of not being caught, or some other stupid psychological explanation. Cheaters can't be changed just as the saying goes "You can't turn a ho into a housewife."

Fool me once, same on you; fool me twice... and you know the rest. There will not and should not be anymore given opportunities. If a cheater can't realize what they are losing before committing such an asinine act, then someone else out there will.